Safety is not a context for self mastery, which is why boys and men especially seek occasions characterized in some way by danger. Playing with frogs, wandering in a forest, swords, and later things like drinking. The safer our culture gets, the more dangerous it will become. What if dangerous drinking is actually a healthy response to an unhealthy culture? Of safety, of micromanagement, of nagging, of surveillance.
I completely forget where this comes from. It’s been sitting in my notes for a few years now, and I’ve been meaning to write something meaningful about it.
The thing speaks for itself, though. Alan Watts writes in The Wisdom of Insecurity about Western culture’s inability to accept the “law of reversed effort” in so many things. Prioritizing safety over reality is one example, wherein the effect is really just decreases our resiliency.